How come some people finds it difficult to say NO outright? They give non-committal replies, makes you hope then in the end bursts the bubble. Are they just too nice to say no or simply can’t make up their minds?
Personally, I would prefer that you refuse outright than be dragged into something you really would not want to get into. Worse, be an expert when it comes to saying yes but leaves people hanging. They would make delays, come up with various reasons but in the end doesn’t do anything.
Whether it’s a simple favor or a really BIG decision, one should commit to a side. Are you going or not going? Are you doing this or not? To an issue, there’s always 2 sides. You can’t be both.
I know it’s not that simple. I know life is not always black & white. There are room for grays and in-betweens, but mind you,... not always. And that is why decisions are not always easy to make.
Personally, I would prefer that you refuse outright than be dragged into something you really would not want to get into. Worse, be an expert when it comes to saying yes but leaves people hanging. They would make delays, come up with various reasons but in the end doesn’t do anything.
Whether it’s a simple favor or a really BIG decision, one should commit to a side. Are you going or not going? Are you doing this or not? To an issue, there’s always 2 sides. You can’t be both.
I know it’s not that simple. I know life is not always black & white. There are room for grays and in-betweens, but mind you,... not always. And that is why decisions are not always easy to make.
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Want to share something that I had once come across....
"....Jesus tells the story, in Matthew 21, of a man who had two sons. Dad went to the first and told him, “go out for the day and work in the vineyard.” Son #1 answered, “I don’t want to,” but later on he thought better of it and went. Dad gave the same command to son #2. He answered, “Sure, I’ll be glad to,” but he never went.
Jesus asked the question, “Which of the two sons did what the father asked?” The church leaders and people whom Jesus was addressing responded, “The first.”
I think that there are times when we reflect the attitudes of son #1, when we know what we should do and initially refuse to do it. Other times we act like son #2 where we commit to doing something and fail to follow through.
Jesus’ point is that when we promise to do something, we should follow through.
A woman I knew told me her dad couldn’t be trusted. She said that the motto of his life was “promises are meant to be broken.” He would promise to do a project, but rarely follow through. It seemed that when it came time for him to follow through, invariably something else would come along that was “more important.” The other thing would become his priority. He was like son #2..."
I think firstly the respect for self is the most important.. and from that would stem the conviction... when I give word to somebody, I'll keep it up at any cost.
The world will salute such a person... irrespective of his social status.
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